I have gotten good at the polite nod as other mothers tell me what has worked for them when trying to get their children to sleep, eat, have just a teeny bit of their own space. Put his food through the food mill, give it to him in ice cube trays, try x, y or z food. Pat him on the back and tell him it’s time to sleep, read him 6 books, give him a massage, let him cry for 15 minutes- he’ll fall asleep. It just isn’t polite to shoot every suggestion down with a “TRIED THAT. Tried that. tried. that.” So we politely nod, and later when I ask my husband, “What am I doing wrong?” He tells me, Nothing, they don’t have Otto- they just aren’t Otto’s mom….